Sometimes Life Gets Messy
There comes a point in everyone’s life when things get messy. Life falls apart, explodes, implodes, collapses, disintegrates… I could go on but I think you get the picture. During these times it’s important to remember that things don’t have to stay bad. Life can be reclaimed, rebuilt, remembered. It may take minutes, days, weeks, months or years, but it can be done. Messes don’t clean themselves though.
Online dating websites supply you with a small arsenal of tools to let potential matches know that you’re interested. One such tool is The Wink. With one simple click of the mouse you can let someone know that you’re interested in them. There are many different approaches to using The Wink. Some people wink at anything that shows up on their screen. Others never wink, but expect to be winked at. Then there are those in the middle. These people generally only wink at the people they are really interested in.
Personally, I rarely wink. I have three children. I can be unhappy on my own. Plus, with my past experience in mind, the bar is set a little higher now. Ok, fine, there probably isn’t a man on earth that will ever meet my criteria, but I can have fun looking. Who knows? Miracles happen.
When you send these cute little winks the receiving party has the option to wink back. If they are not interested then they just don’t respond and you move on. At least that was what I thought. Then I got the email: “Thanks But….” What?! One of the guys I had winked out sent an email to say “Thanks but no thanks.” I didn’t even know that was possible. I hurried on to the dating website and sure enough, in teeny tiny print under The Wink, there was a button to respond that you aren’t interested. What is that about?!
What kind of person responds negatively to a wink? I mean, if I was walking in the store and some guy winked at me I wouldn’t walk up to him and say, “Aww, thanks, but I’m really not interested.” Who does that?! It’s a wink! If you’re not interested then you take it for the compliment that it is and move on. There’s no need to send a rejection email, no matter how nicely it’s worded. Trust me, whomever it is that sent that wink will know that you’re not interested when you don’t respond.
Take me for an example. Most of the winks I receive come from 50-60 years old men. Well, that or they’re missing some of their teeth, but the point is that I don’t send rejection emails for a wink. I mean, it’s nice to know that someone’s interested, even if I’m not interested in them.
Summary: Wink whenever you want to, as much as you want to, but never reply negatively to a wink. If you’re not interested then take it as a compliment and move on. (Oh, and always read the fine print!)
Now, go get your wink on!
One man’s toilet is another man’s throne.
It all comes down to perspective. Life can get pretty crappy (pun intended) if you can’t laugh at the ridiculous, face up to the hard, or settle the sorrow. There is always a silver lining. It may be small, it may be odd, it may be incredibly difficult to find, but it’s there. So look around and find it, and then you can turn your toilets of life into thrones.